I turn the world around…

I know it’s been a while since I have posted anything here on the site, but, here I am. Alive and well. Well, as well as I am going to be for the moment. No, things are good (all things considered), but getting reintroduced to my form of civilization has been a little bit of a process. Alot has gone on, and will continue to do so, but, things are looking up.

The old self would have probably exploded, or have just given up by now, but I said old self. Gone are those days. Sure, I’m still working on things, but everyone should strive to be better, EVERYDAY, not just when it’s convenient, or when “things go wrong”. Do I still get stressed? Sure. I won’t lie. But the key is in how you handle the stress and how you look at all things looking for the positives, and for the lesson to be learned by your experiences.

So, mending a broken relationship, dealing with the joblessness and other related issues back here in the good ‘ol US of A, I still believe that in the end, it will all be better than it was before. And that’s what you, and everyone else should feel. Use the events in your life as stepping stones. Experience, learn, grow. What other alternatives are there? Be human. Be well…

“A man does what he must – in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures – and that is the basis of all human morality.” – Winston Churchill

Now Playing: “More Human Than Human” by Rob Zombie

What do you do?

Well, so far, so good. However, like I’ve stated before, it’s a new beginning. In a sense, it’s “starting over”. There is a familiarity to all of it, but at the same time, there are adjustments to be made, and “re-learning”. Certainly things are different, and a few hurdles to get over, but, one thing at a time, one day at a time.

There are things currently going on that are not ideal, like still no job, and now problems with my car, but I am looking at the positives of it all, and not letting it get to me. So far, I believe that things have been falling into place and working out, and I am not going to abandon the new mindset and way of thinking. Does being inconvenienced suck? I won’t lie, it does, but what options do I have? The old way of thinking is NOT one of them.

We all have the power, the choice to make when it comes to certain things in life, and how we deal with them. It’s as if we get to a fork in the road. Which way are you going to go? You can choose to complain, whine, get angry, or you can take the negative, deal, and turn it into a positive. I really am done with the old way of thinking, it’s a road to nowhere….

“The first rule is to keep an untoubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are. If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgment now. Think of what you have rather than of what you lack. Of the things you have, select the best and then reflect how eagerly you would have sought them if you did not have them” – Marcus Aurelius

Now Playing: “What Do You Do?” by the Rollins Band

Don’t worry about a thing, cause every little thing gonna be all right…

When things got rough for me, there were times where I thought life was just a HUGE joke, and not worth the effort. I’m sure most, if not all of you share the same feeling. But, pain and hurt are only temporary. It is us who prolong it.

Things always change and evolve, one way or the other. When things aren’t ideal, you have to believe that the hardship is only temporary, and WILL get better. We have to believe that. We have to help make it happen.

The only thing we should worry about, is how our lives will be better. How our lives will improve after we overcome whatever obstacle throws itself in front of us. Things usually have a way of working out, if we don’t get in the way….

“Everything will be okay in the end. if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” – Uknown Author

Now Playing: “Everything’s Gonna Be Alright” by Bob Marley

It seems it’s written, but we can’t read between the line…

We sometimes think we have everything figured out, don’t we? Life has a funny way of throwing a “curve ball” at us from time to time. How do you deal with it? Do you deal with it at all? It’s easier to run and hide, than to stand and fight.

Not only do we all think we have everything figured out, we also try to force things, we try to change things that sometimes are not our business to change, and we also have a habit of trying to make the square peg fit into the round hole. What’s going to happen, is going to happen. What’s meant to be, is going to be.

So let’s worry about ourselves and how we are going to make our lives better, teaching ourselves how to deal with whatever comes our way, and accept the things that are meant to be.

“Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.” – Albert Ellis

Now Playing: “Soulmates Never Die” by Placebo

When you lose something you can’t replace…

We all often take for granted the little things in life. For whatever reason, we just allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with things that really don’t matter, or even pick on the negative in certains things, and even people.

They say you don’t know what you got ’til it’s gone. That truly is the case. Often things have to be taken away, even if for a little while, to make us realize that we should count our blessings, and be happy with what we have.

So learn to appreciate the little things in life. Learn to see the wonder and greatness in things around you. Realize that the smallest thing in someone you love or care about really isn’t small at all…

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Brault

Now Playing: “Fix You” by Coldplay

But I’m hangin’ tough…Day, by, day, by, day, by, day.

You’ve heard, as well as I have, people say “one day at a time”. Great saying. It’s easier to deal with things that are troubling us, or in our way, if we just chip away at it, taking it one step at a time. It’s better to take things slow, and deal with things one piece at a time, finding the solution to the puzzle.

But most of us allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with eveything at once, and then we just look at it and say that we can’t handle it. We use it as an excuse, and take the cowards way out. Is that really what you want to be known for, being a coward, a quitter?

Practice makes perfect, so right now is the moment to do what you need to in order to overcome anything thrown your way, and for you to have what you want out of life. Let’s not be cowards. Let’s hang in there and take it one step, piece, and day at a time.

“Worry never accomplishes anything. When you have a problem, it is best to concentrate on the solution to that problem, not the problem itself.” – Thomas D. Willhite

Now Playing: “God Hates A Coward” by Tomahawk

You know enough to know the way…

A lot of us go through he same things in life. We are all in this together. We also need to realize that a lot of the solution is within ourselves. We have the power to overcome and make changes. We do. But, there’s always an excuse, always someone else to blame.

Why continue playing the blame game and making excuses? That gets really old, really fast, doesn’t it? I know in my experiences, I would make excuses, blame other things or people, or even go so far as make someone else the scapegoat. All because I couldn’t deal with the tormented existance that I was suffering through.

Others are in the same boat. You know you’re out there. We all should know better. Enough of the nonsense and begin taking what you want out of life. Time to say enough and be the person you want to be. We need to continue tapping into that inner strength and find our tomorrow today.

“The pattern of the prodigal is: rebellion, ruin, repentance, reconciliation, restoration.”

Now Playing: “Edge of the Earth” by 30 Seconds To Mars

For the sins of our hands…

 A lot of people adapt the “gloom and doom” attitude when it comes to certain things. Many also look at life through cynical eyes. Does it really make sense to look at things that way? I used to be that way, and thinking back, it just did more harm than good.

They say you attract what you release. I find that there is truth to that. If you look at things negatively, and always though a cynics eyes, what do you think that will get you? We need to look at things in a positive light, even though, yes, it could be hard at times.

But it’s up to us, isn’t it? Up to us to be the ones, a catalyst if you will, to be willing to let go of our egos, our pride, our lack of understanding, and willingness to look for the silver lining in all situations. Let’s not let negativity get the best of us. Stand up, let go, and be the catalyst to attract the positive things you want out of life.

“A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.” – Wade Boggs

Now Playing: “Catalyst” by Linkin Park

By subtleties that we are not aware of…

We all have troubles. We all have faults. Most of us have so many things in common. EVERYONE has obstacles to overcome. It’s either a situation currently in your life, a past occurrence, or maybe it’s a few personality flaws. I myself have, and do go through all of the above, and I’m sure most of you do as well.

Life’s not perfect, we are not perfect. There’s flaws all around. It’s how we deal with the flaws and imperfection in life. It’s all about how we can control what we can control, and let go of all the rest.

So, we are all damaged to one degree or another. A lot of people go through the same kinds of hardships and personal issues. We are not alone. None of us. We just need to remember that we should live our lives to the fullest, realize that things can’t always be perfect.

“Better to be a strong man with a weak point, than to be a weak man without a strong point. A diamond with a flaw is more valuable that a brick without a flaw.” – William J. H. Boetcker

Now Playing: “Damaged People” by Depeche Mode

Sorry to disturb you, but I feel that I should be heard loud and clear…

There’s something I would like to share that I usually don’t with people. So please, hear me out. I am not a religious guy, or one to get on his knees and pray. In fact, I would almost call myself agnostic in my beliefs, although I do not even follow that to the letter. I think MANY people are in the same mindset as me when it comes to that. But I do respect those who  are religious and have that belief system.

Well, when I arrived here, on the island of Puerto Rico, I was a shell of a man. Soulless and broken down. I’ll spare all of the details, but most of you who regularly read my writings know the situation pretty much. For those who don’t, basically my family life back home in Chicago took a nasty dive. Unemployed, pretty much broke, and my wife wanted space. I had no where to go, so I ended up here.

So, needless to say, my condition wasn’t very good. Name any negative human emotion. I went through it. Depression, anger, resentment, vengeful thinking, etc. I would lay down at nights and curse everything, and everyone who wronged me. But then there were nights where I was the exact opposite. Tears rolling down my face, sorrowful, full of angst and remorse.

Well, one night I lay down, and of course I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t help but feel this overwhelming sorrow. I felt desperate. I finally just started to speak and ask “if anyone is listening, please, please help me”. Honestly, I wasn’t thinking of a God or Universe, or whatever you call your higher power, I just wanted WHOEVER, WHATEVER to listen. To heed my words and help me.

Soon after, I began to blog. Blogging was a tool that I used to cope with my situation. And it has helped me.  And what I find even better, is that it seems to be helping others as well. Others who are going through similar situations, others who have gone through it. Was this the help that I was looking for?

On another occasion, I started to feel a little burned out as far as writing and blogging. I wondered if I should even carry on. there were times where I though no one really cared or listened, so why go through all the trouble? For those who blog, you know what I am talking about. It can be a lot of work, and sometimes there really isn’t much reward.

But one night, again, I lay down an I ask “should I continue with this?”, among other things. Then, I begin receiving messages and comments from people that supported, and even thanked me for doing what I’m doing. Was that ANOTHER answer?

So I continue. Even if it touches, or inspires very little.

One last time, I couldn’t sleep. I just decided to begin taking aloud again. I asked about my situation, the break down of my relationship, and how it was all going to end up. Soon after, I get an email from….you guessed it. Communication began, and is going on currently. Is this an answer to my “prayer”?

“Certain thoughts are prayers.  There are moments when, whatever be the attitude of the body, the soul is on its knees”.  – Victor Hugo

Now Playing: “Dear God” by XTC