How can we evolve if we live in the shadow?

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The intent of this blog isn’t really to feel sorry for myself or live in the muck that is the negative that is going on in my life. The intent is to share, cope, vent, and attempt to heal myself and live like I’m supposed to. Hopefully those reading find something in my words and come along for the ride and find what they are looking for. There is strength is masses. We are all human with the same human emotions and feelings. We all want to be happy.

Can it be challenging? Of course it is. One of the challenges is getting away from the dark cloud that hangs above us. We constantly linger in the shadow that always seems to creep at us and keep us from the light. Sure, life isn’t always going to be perfect, but just perpetuating negative attitudes, feelings, whatever isn’t really good. I struggle all the time, but without struggle or movement, you’re done…..Live life, be well.

“Look around you. Everything changes. everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving, refining, improving, adapting, enhancing, and changing. You were not put on this earth to remain stagnant.” Dr. Steve Mataboli

Now Playing: Fire From the Gods – Evolve

Now you can follow and listen on YouTube and Spotify.

Hey everybody. Just a quick post to let you know that you can listen to music featured on the blog now via YouTube and Spotify. Just click on the links in the sidebar (and the links page via the menu on mobile) and enjoy.

This is somewhat experimental at this point, and changes may be made here and there, but I thought I’d put something together and share. Thanks again….be well.

JRF

Pretty soon you have to deal with the truth behind the way you feel…

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Ignoring things don’t make them go away. If anything, at times it may make matters worse. Hiding things is never good. In a way it can be borderline abusive. I have always been of the mindset that things shouldn’t be sugar coated (but common sense and tact be used), and honesty is the best policy. I think one of the things we do, especially me recently, is hide or ignore thoughts or feelings we have instead of dealing with them or finding a remedy. Guilty.

I wonder to myself at times if I have grieved enough, or grieved properly. As time goes on, I do still think of her, but I also noticed that there is a level of “normalcy” to life as the days go by. But at the same time, there is so much still bottled inside that I just don’t know really what to do.

Along with that, other issues in my life arise. Since I must pick up the pieces and move on, I realize the changes that need to be addressed or changed like my health, job situation, loneliness, depression, grief at times, and the list goes on. Feels overwhelming at times, but one day at a time.

So we need to look in the mirror, take a deep breath and figure it out. Deal with the issues and learn to live, and live with yourself. I find that hard sometimes, but life is to be lived happily and to the fullest. I want that, and I’m sure you do too……Be blessed.

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”  – Dalai Lama XIV

 

Now Playing: Jonathan Davis – What it is

 

 

Yeah, it feels like The world has grown cold.

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There isn’t a day that I don’t think about her. Everyday I contemplate, I wish, I regret. Here a broken man, confused, lost, not knowing where to go next. The glimpses of progression shine through once and a while, but become eclipsed. What do I do? Where do I go from here? I know I need to move on, but how? It’s as if I’m haunted and tormented, not only by the memories of recent events, but I feel tortuous fire inside at times. Time has passed, and I have started to move on, but I feel there is a ways to go.

How to deal? One day at a time, I suppose. Life has twists and turns, things happen, sometimes self inflicted, sometimes not. But we need to deal or we die.  I heard a saying recently that really spoke to me. It also can be interpreted a couple ways. It is “Progression, not Perfection”. So true.

So family, life’s not perfect. But progression is key. Will you stumble, lose hope, want to give up? Yes, of course. We are all human. But remember, it’s not how many times you fall, it’s how many times you get back up. Be well…..

“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life”. – Anne Roiphe

Now Playing: Five Finger Death Punch – Gone Away

 

 

 

I convinced myself that I was Invincible…

file2541264468046  So it’s been a while since I posted on this blog. The blog was named “The Ballad of Joey Flowers”, I started it as a way to deal with the separation from my wife. Long story short, all was resolved, I moved back home, and then just picked up where we left off.

Shortly after, my wife became VERY ill, but fought through it. Life was good again. Was it perfect? No. Who’s life is? We continued on and my wife even started her own business.

A little over a year ago, she fell ill once again. This time was even worse than the first time. Stage 4 cancer. Too late to do anything. Doctors and nurses would pull me to the side and give me “the talk”. Then finally, on November 13th, 2016 she passed away in my arms. Was a long journey, but here it ended…..or did it?

Now this story is very abbreviated, and not meant to sadden, or make you feel bad, but needless to say, I’ve been through a lot since I stopped blogging. But here I am, expressing my heart and soul again.

So, again I will use this medium to help myself, and possibly help others. But like I have stated before in the past, I plan on going off topic from time to time, share things that I find interesting, music, movies, games, anything that helps us deal, cope, or just forget about the serious stuff for a while. And please, feel free to share your stories, your favorite things, your ways of getting through life.

Thanks, and welcome to Resound and Rebel.

“Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.”
– Nicole Sobon

Now Playing: Twelve Foot Ninja – “Invincible”

 

 

 

I turn the world around…

I know it’s been a while since I have posted anything here on the site, but, here I am. Alive and well. Well, as well as I am going to be for the moment. No, things are good (all things considered), but getting reintroduced to my form of civilization has been a little bit of a process. Alot has gone on, and will continue to do so, but, things are looking up.

The old self would have probably exploded, or have just given up by now, but I said old self. Gone are those days. Sure, I’m still working on things, but everyone should strive to be better, EVERYDAY, not just when it’s convenient, or when “things go wrong”. Do I still get stressed? Sure. I won’t lie. But the key is in how you handle the stress and how you look at all things looking for the positives, and for the lesson to be learned by your experiences.

So, mending a broken relationship, dealing with the joblessness and other related issues back here in the good ‘ol US of A, I still believe that in the end, it will all be better than it was before. And that’s what you, and everyone else should feel. Use the events in your life as stepping stones. Experience, learn, grow. What other alternatives are there? Be human. Be well…

“A man does what he must – in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures – and that is the basis of all human morality.” – Winston Churchill

Now Playing: “More Human Than Human” by Rob Zombie

What do you do?

Well, so far, so good. However, like I’ve stated before, it’s a new beginning. In a sense, it’s “starting over”. There is a familiarity to all of it, but at the same time, there are adjustments to be made, and “re-learning”. Certainly things are different, and a few hurdles to get over, but, one thing at a time, one day at a time.

There are things currently going on that are not ideal, like still no job, and now problems with my car, but I am looking at the positives of it all, and not letting it get to me. So far, I believe that things have been falling into place and working out, and I am not going to abandon the new mindset and way of thinking. Does being inconvenienced suck? I won’t lie, it does, but what options do I have? The old way of thinking is NOT one of them.

We all have the power, the choice to make when it comes to certain things in life, and how we deal with them. It’s as if we get to a fork in the road. Which way are you going to go? You can choose to complain, whine, get angry, or you can take the negative, deal, and turn it into a positive. I really am done with the old way of thinking, it’s a road to nowhere….

“The first rule is to keep an untoubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are. If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgment now. Think of what you have rather than of what you lack. Of the things you have, select the best and then reflect how eagerly you would have sought them if you did not have them” – Marcus Aurelius

Now Playing: “What Do You Do?” by the Rollins Band

You keep alive a moment at a time…

Things don’t usually happen overnight. So why do we usually expect them to? I’ve been guilty of that, and I’m sure most, no, all of you are guilty of that as well. Sometimes we just need to be more patient with things, and of course do our part to make things better, and the way we want them to be.

If things go wrong, fine. Let them go wrong. It’s just a part of life. It’s something we have to live with. Certain things may slow you down, hurt you, and just flat out suck, but once you do get hurt and fall to the ground, you need to stand, and learn to walk again.

Learn how to walk again and refuse to let things get in the way and stop you from getting to where you want to go, where you want to be. Refuse to give up, refuse to die. Take one step at a time, one day at a time…

“One day at a time–this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.” – Unknown Author

Now Playing: “Walk” by the Foo Fighters

Sure, if we change our perspective…

The way we look at things is very important in our existence. If we constantly look at things through negative eyes, everything around us becomes negative. On the contrary, if we look at everything with positive eyes, we see nothing, and create nothing but positive things.

All of us cling to things we shouldn’t. None of us can be any better if we don’t learn how to let go and move on. We can’t take what is out there for us if we refuse to move forward and get to that point. You can’t get to where you are being lead, if you keep your burdens, which weigh you down.

So let’s all continue to be better people. Let’s all continue to look at things in a positive light, even though yes, life will have it’s ups and downs. Rise, hold your head up, and get to where you need, and want to be.

“We imagine that we want to escape our selfish and commonplace existence, but we cling desperately to our chains.” – Anne Sullivan

Now Playing: “Come Clarity” by In Flames

A better person cause you lived through those days…

What people don’t realize is that sometimes going through hard times or obstacles in life can be used to our advantage. We often turn them into something that holds us back, and just makes things worse for ourselves. Certain experiences in life should be viwed as lessons, as experiences that make us better people.

Going through the fire is only the beginning of turning us into something better. Metal needs to be put to flame in order to be turned into something else, and in the process, making it stronger, glass needs to be put into flame before it becomes a beautiful vase, coal under pressure becomes a diamond. I think you all know what point I’m trying to make.

We are ALL going to go through some sort of hell in our life. But taking the negative, learning from it and making it a positive is very important. It’s supposed to make us BETTER and STRONGER. So let’s all take advantage of those moments not giving up, and work on being better, overcoming everything that gets to us.

“Believe in Yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.” – Cynthia Kersey

Now Playing: “No Giving Up” by Crossfade