Can you see the fabric of our standards wearing thin?

Looking through cynical and negative eyes isn’t a way we should live life. Should we be careful and on guard at times? Sure, I would say so, especially in this day and time, but to revolve your way of thinking to that of someone always on guard just does you a disservice, doesn’t it?

Really all it does is hold you back. Do negative things happen? Yes. Is there people with negativity surrounding them, projecting it towards you? Again, yes. But we have to take it upon ourselves to be the opposite of that. Sure, we can expect to run into “obstacles”, but to let your existence revolve around being cynical and negative, like I stated before, just holds us back.

We should look for the silver lining in everything. Find the silver lining in the black cloud, not focus on the cloud. Most of us tend to do that. Doesn’t make sense when you think about it. Changing yor outlook will help you in the long run.

“If you don’t think every day is a good day, just try missing one.”  – Cavett Robert

Now Playing: “The World Is A Thorn” by Demon Hunter

The Show must go on…

Good or bad, life continues. I know from experience, and I’m sure everyone else has had times in there lives where you just want to throw in the towel. You want to give up.

But we must ask ourselves, what will giving up accomplish? Does that make anything better, or fix anything? No. Of course not. So why is it that we give up so easy, and lose trust and faith in ourselves?

Stop, think, and find out what you really want out of life. Hold your head up, keep a positive attitude and outlook, and you will see that things will change. Now, it may not be instant, but patience is key. In life we are constantly learning, and if we refuse to learn, where does that take us?

“Don’t go through life, grow through life.” – Eric Butterworth

Now Playing: “The Show Must Go On” by Queen


We can’t let this be our death…

Things happen. Things change. It’s how we deal with certain things that makes us or breaks us. We need to learn how to take the positive things and make them touch other parts in our lives, and take all the negavtive, learn from it, and not let that stop us.

It’s interesting that most of us just tend to play the victim and let the negative things run our lives. If we continue to dwell, and stay in that mindset, our surroundings will just reflect that. Is that what we really want? I don’t.

Take all things positive and use them. Take all negative things and use them. It must be done to our advantage, and for the betterment of ourselves. Brush away what needs to be, and let’s not let it get the best of us.

“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” – John Quincy Adams

Now Playing: “This Is More” by Stick To Your Guns

It seems it’s written, but we can’t read between the line…

We sometimes think we have everything figured out, don’t we? Life has a funny way of throwing a “curve ball” at us from time to time. How do you deal with it? Do you deal with it at all? It’s easier to run and hide, than to stand and fight.

Not only do we all think we have everything figured out, we also try to force things, we try to change things that sometimes are not our business to change, and we also have a habit of trying to make the square peg fit into the round hole. What’s going to happen, is going to happen. What’s meant to be, is going to be.

So let’s worry about ourselves and how we are going to make our lives better, teaching ourselves how to deal with whatever comes our way, and accept the things that are meant to be.

“Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.” – Albert Ellis

Now Playing: “Soulmates Never Die” by Placebo

When you lose something you can’t replace…

We all often take for granted the little things in life. For whatever reason, we just allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with things that really don’t matter, or even pick on the negative in certains things, and even people.

They say you don’t know what you got ’til it’s gone. That truly is the case. Often things have to be taken away, even if for a little while, to make us realize that we should count our blessings, and be happy with what we have.

So learn to appreciate the little things in life. Learn to see the wonder and greatness in things around you. Realize that the smallest thing in someone you love or care about really isn’t small at all…

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Brault

Now Playing: “Fix You” by Coldplay

Put all your worries behind…

As you read this, I will be on my way back home to Chicago. My time here on the island of Puerto Rico I would say was a productive one. I am however still on my journey, and I believe that this is only the beginning.

I fought it at first. I hated it at times, but as time went on, one of the things I began to realize that yes, things do happen for a reason, and sometimes you need a situation, or something to happen to you in your life that “wakes you up”.

So, with lessons learned, and the tools needed to continue on, I return. I return to do things the right way. Changed, renewed, and with a new desire to be a better son, friend, father, and husband.

May good fortune and blessings fall upon all of my friends, family, and all of you and your families, so we can continue on our paths, and all become better human beings…

“The part always has a tendency to reunite with its whole in order to escape from its imperfection.” – Leonardo da Vinci

Now Playing: “Come On Home” by Indigenous

Back to that same old place…

For those who regularly read the postings here at The Ballad of Joey Flowers, first of all, I thank you. I know you all pretty much know my situation. For those who are new, first of all welcome, and here’s my situation in a nutshell.

The Ballad of Joey Flowers was started as a way for me to deal with things that were going on in my life back in Chicago. I was unemployed, was suffering through depression, anxiety, OCD, and other personal issues. On top of that, my relationship took a dive. She needed space, which I reluctantly gave her, but had nowhere to go. So, I ended up with my family on the island of Puerto Rico.

I went through all the textbook emotions and feelings, finally accepting life as it was, or was going to be. Another thing I realized after a while was that I needed for things to happen the way they did, so that I could open my eyes and learn. Learn, grow, and change. I was given a second chance to better myself, and become the person I was meant to be.

So, here I am, a better person yes, but still a work in progress. And, my situation has done a complete 180 degrees. The past few weeks have become a period of forgiveness, redemption, and reconciliation. Things seemed to just fall into place, and continue to do so. It’s time for phase two.

That’s right, I’m heading home…

Wherever a man may happen to turn, whatever a man may undertake, he will always end up by returning to that path which nature has marked out for him.” – Unknown Author

Now Playing: “Sweet Home Chicago” by Buddy Guy